How You Can Support or Sabotage Your Goals

Last week, I blogged about some tips that would help you keep your new year resolutions and other goals. Today, I’m here to discuss overcoming your largest obstacle: you.

As surprising as it may seem, often the only person standing in between you and your goals is you. I’m going to tell you why knowing what you want, believing you deserve it, and putting yourself first are so important when aiming for goals.

What do you want?

It seems like a harmless question, but it’s incredibly difficult for some people to answer.

Just think about it in these terms: In an ideal world, what would your life look like? Be specific, use details and be realistic.

Realizing what you want is the first step to getting there. while there might be a few different things you want (and I applaud your ambition), try focusing  on one or two goals at first. Once you reach those goals, build on to what you’ve done by adding more.

A goal that I have is to learn how to snowboard. I think, “I live in Portland, Oregon, an hour and a half from Mount Hood–How have I not taken advantage of this yet?” But just wanting to learn how to snowboard isn’t a clear enough vision…so I tried again. I want to learn how to snowboard well enough to spend a day on the big kids slopes in 2011, (with the majority of the day on my feet and not my rear end).

I deserve to be successful.

Well, duh! Of course you do! Easy for me to say, but do you feel the same way about yourself? Unless you truly believe that you deserve success, you won’t fully achieve it.

Does your environment and support system support your goals? Are you surrounded by Negative Nancys who laugh at your goals and bring you down? You might need new friends. Or at least like-minded people who will provide a positive environment and the support system you need to succeed.

I found a friend who spent a year in Colorado snowboarding and asked him if he would help me learn how to snowboard. His response: “I would love to.” It caught me by surprise–what motivation would he have for helping me? Well, this is something he is passionate about and wants to share. As a friend, he wants to support me and see me succeed. Having someone believe in your goals and wanting to help only motivated me even more to reach for my goals. It’s a win-win in my books!

Another approach is to find people with similar goals. Just through conversation, I found out about a group of people who I know in passing were also going to sign up for lessons and learn how to snowboard this winter. By joining that group, not only will I have a group to carpool with, but we can laugh and support each other through the beginning blunders.

If you can’t think of anyone who wants to join in on the fun, another way to find a group is through social networking sites, like MeetUp, a site that “helps groups of people with shared interests plan meetings and form offline clubs in local communities around the world.”

Make yourself  a priority.

With school and work and family and friends and significant others, there are barely enough hours in the day–but where do you factor in?

By not putting yourself first, you’re sharing the same message with those around you: I am not a priority. Without putting yourself first, you may find that the goal you wanted to achieve this year never gets started.

I have lived in Portland for over two years and have never made it to the mountain for a ski/snowboarding trip–and I even had a snowboard last year that a friend gave me! Why? I didn’t put myself first. I found plans to go for my first lesson often got pushed back because of a friend coming to visit or a busy project at work, among other reasons. Before I knew it, the snow was gone and it was summer.

This year, I’m making myself a priority by planning my trips in advance, inviting others along and saying no to other obligations and make reaching my goal my number one.

It all comes down to you. You are your biggest fan and your biggest hurdle but with the right approach (and as cliche as this may sound) you really can achieve anything you put your mind to.


Sejal is a Recruitment Marketing Project Manager at Intel. She is part of the team that is responsible for Intel’s global employment brand. This team helps connect candidates with Intel and Intel with candidates using channels such as the Jobs at Intel web site, the Life at Intel microsite and other Web 2.0 channels. Sejal specifically manages theJobs at Intel Blog and Intel’s recruitment Facebook strategy. Originally from Toronto, Ontario (yes—a real, breathing Canadian!), Sejal graduated from the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign with her Bachelor’s in Communications before starting at Intel in 2008. When she’s not working, you’ll find Sejal working at crossing things off of her Bucket List (which includes skydiving, reading 1000 books and traveling the world), eating cupcakes or spending time with family and friends. To learn more about opportunities with Intel, visit, follow Intel on Twitter @JobsatIntel or check out the Jobs@Intel blog!

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One Response to “How You Can Support or Sabotage Your Goals”

  1. avatar anupam says:

    really interesting pov,,crisp and to the point.

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